Beyond Deep Breaths – 40 unique
tried-and-tested, mum-approved techniques
to help you get a grip when you’re so angry
all you want to do is scream
(and generic advice like ‘just take a deep breath’ actually makes you scream instead of calming you down!)
Did you know that taking a deep breath is not the only, or even the most effective way to help you control your behaviour when your kids are climbing the walls and driving you up the roof?
Taking a deep breath to calm down has NEVER worked for me when I’m angry (and I have nearly a decade’s worth of experience with mindfulness meditation!)
In fact, trying to focus on my breathing makes me even more angry, and much more likely to yell.
If you’re a mother struggling with anger management and find that
cookie-cutter platitudes to take deep breaths just don’t work for you, then we are going to be the best of friends!
Aaaaaaaaaaaaaaaand…
…I wrote ‘Beyond Deep Breaths: 40 things to do instead when life makes you want to scream!’ just for you!
As it says on the tin, this practical guide has 40 techniques for you to try during heated moments,
all of which I have tried and tested myself.
(Many of these have worked for me, and some haven’t but may work for you, so I’ve been painfully honest inside!)
What do I mean by anger management techniques that ‘work’?
First of all, there’s nothing wrong with anger itself. It’s an emotion, like any other, and has an important, very often protective role to play in our lives.
The problem is that when we are in the grip of a powerful emotion like anger, it is very hard to access the reasonable and logical part of our brain.
Anger can overwhelm us and when we are overwhelmed, we tend to react in automatic, habitual and often unhelpful, even harmful ways like yelling at, or punishing our kids, even when we ‘know’ better.
The usual advice to take deep breaths when you’re angry is aimed at helping you to calm down.
Unfortunately we humans aren’t machines, and deep breathing isn’t some magical lever that can shift our nervous system from angry to calm in real life.
Trying to do so can result in a mismatch that just short-circuits the system, and results in some people (like me!) getting even more angry. (I’ve discovered 10 reasons why deep breathing doesn’t work for everyone, and I share them all in Beyond Deep Breaths.)
If you’re anything like me, you want to do better for your children. You’re a conscious parent, you’ve read all the literature, you understand that the kids are just being kids!
But you just can’t seem to help what comes out of your mouth when you’re angry. And that is where Beyond Deep Breaths… comes in.
You get to experiment with 40 different techniques to find what works for you when you get angry.
Trying out these tools and finding the ones that work for you will transform the way you manage your behaviour and interaction with your children when you are angry.
Want to learn different ways to manage your anger?
Gain 40 unique, mom-approved tools that break free from the limitations of generic advice, helping you find peace and regain control over your behaviour when you’re angry.
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Meet the nervous system (and heart!) behind Beyond Deep Breaths….
Nimisha Kantharia is a surgeon, mother, and mindfulness teacher who struggles with anger and wears that struggle as a badge of honor because:
A. It proves she’s human and subject to the same emotions as every other human being on planet earth (despite nearly a decade of practicing and studying mindfulness).
B. It allows her to work with awesome mothers who are trying to break intergenerational cycles of anger and violence by using mindfulness as a tool for emotional regulation.